A kaydet girl's daily dose of support

We’re all sisters, and we love each other so so much because we know each other and shared considerable amounts of time together. But it’s not just that. We’re sisters not just by acquaintance, we are sisters because we share the same emotions, same tears, same frantic madnesses. We feel like sisters because we DO treat each other like sisters.

It’s almost automatic for us KGs to click. We feel each other, so we know how to talk to each other. However, there are times when one or more of us may forget some little rules when dealing with each other. It is out of love that we have all met, and it should also be out of love that we mingle with each other. So here are some guidelines that are very useful, if we would ever want a harmonious world for KGs. These guidelines may not only improve our sisterhood, but may also improve your understanding of your cadet’s situations and improve your relationship with him.

This is written to guide new KGs, most of the part, for the KGs of plebes, but it is still very much useful still for them old, full-pledged KGs we know and love by heart.

Rule #1: At your first encounters, do treat the KG of an upperclass as if you were her underclass as well.

Treat the KG of an upperclass with utmost respect, unless offered to not do so. HUWAG NA HUWAG MO SIYANG UUTUSAN. Remember, she had already gone through all the hardships of being an underclass KG and all. She have already gone through the pains of every year her cadet has spent inside the academy. Who knows, she might have even accomplished a long list of compliances from both the uperclasses and their KGs. She should well be past that—and you should never, ever, make her feel the same way as she did before—regardless if she have done all those with utmost pleasure or not. However, you may make her do a thing or two IF AND ONLY IF SHE OFFERS TO DO SO. Note that when it is said “UTUSAN,” it can be a form of a request, o pa-joke na utos, or even the most innocent favors. Surely, if you’re an upperclass KG, automatic din na mai-imbyerna ka pag inutusan ka. So spare yourself the hate. Please.

Rule #2: Do not be too clingy or nosy when talking to your cadet’s upperclassmen.

Yes we know that it is from the upperclassmen that we get the most vital of information, even information our cadets do not even know yet, at times. Yeah, we KGs can be really curious at times, but being to clingy or nosy cannot help you. HUWAG MASYADONG MATANONG, HUWAG MASYADONG PA-CURIOUS. Some upperclassmen might get really irritated, pwede ring ikaw na ang mairita later on dahil kung snappy kang ebababs, baka pormahan ka naman. You woudn’t want that, would you? Isa pa, baka maging issue pa yan o ano. Alamona.

Rule #3: Huwag na huwag, as in never ever, MAINGGIT o MANG-INGGIT.

It’s not a fair world in there. Those who are higher have the most privileges, pero minsan, those who are higher are in more difficult situations. Basta, hindi sila pantay-pantay doon. Face it. Upperclass ay upperclass. At hindi lang iyon, iba ang mga patakaran sa bawat company. Hindi porke’t enjoy si mistah, ganoon na rin si cadet mo. Golden rule ang huwag MAINGGIT, dahil hindi naman kasalanan ng cadet mo na iba ang sitwasyon niya sa iba. Golden rule din ang huwang MANG-INGGIT, dahil alam mo naman sa sarili mo kung gaano kasakit ang malamang ang saya saya ng iba at ikaw, naghihintay sa wala. In short, BE SENSITIVE NAMAN. Sisters nga diba? Mahal natin ang isa’t isa. We must find ways to make each other happy, and find ways to keep us from being too sad. Wag nang gatungan pa ang pagka-miss ng isang sis.

Rule #4: Be your most humble self.

Humility is something we could all use in life, not just in our PMA or KG world. Kung ang ganda at ang sexy mo like hell and you know it, wag mo nang ipangalandakan. When going to the academy for a visit or what not, wear your simplest but not lousy clothes. Simplest—because you wouldn’t want to be too loud to get noticed too much. Simplest—because you wouldn’t want to arouse unsolicited criticisms and unintended insecurities from other KGs. Simplest—because it is what is proper, and your cadet would very much appreciate it if you would look decent and pretty at the same time. Sometimes we tend to want to dress up a little, and it’s nice—but don’t wear something that would turn every head (cadets’ or not) to you. It is very important to take note na kung echusera ang ibang mga KG, mas lalong echusero ang mga kadete. Marami sa atin ang nakarinig na ng usapan ng mga kadete na may temang, “Bok, nakita mo ba yung girlfriend ni Cdt. Dugumon? Snappy is not?” o kaya, “Like hell naman yung kasama ni Dugumon. Sluggable ah.” or even, “Hanep bok. Nakita mo ba yung babaeng ganito, ganyan blah-blah-blah.” Promise. Echusero sila. Kung wala tayong magawa sa buhay minsan at nagagawa nating manlait, mas lalo naman sila. Mas chismoso pa iyong mga iyon kaysa sa atin. Pero what, mahal na mahal naman natin sila. LOL.

Kung pupunta ka sa PMA, kung KG ka, halata naman na yun. Usually mag-isa ka sa taxi, or naglalakad mag-isa, or may kasamang mga kapwa KG, o kasama mong naglalakad si cadet mo. Basta, andun na yun eh. Feel na ng mga tao na KG ka. You don’t need paraphernalia to shout to the world that you are indeed one. You don’t need to wear the PMA shirts he gave you. You don’t need to wear shirts or jackets which scream out clearly P-M-A or the name of the company your boyfriend is or was in.

Yes, your cadet may be on the dean’s list or comm’s list or even sup’s list (Wow, sis! Congrats naman kay boyfriend mo. Infairness pag sup’s list, ang snappy niya like hell ah! :> ). Yes, your cadet may be the Baron, in the colors, or whatever position he may hold. Be humble. We all feel pride when our cadets have accomplishments, but remember—they still aren’t your accomplishments. Stay as humble as you can. Walk with pride but not too much. Congratulate him, even publicly on social networking sites, but not in such a way that you would already generate the feeling of “Oo na ikaw na ang may snappy na cadet. Ikaw na lang talaga. Anong tingin mo sa cadet ko, no-go?” or something like that. Lol. Face it. We’re women, we’re sensitive. After all, the accomplishments are his. They’re accomplished by the person you love. It is nice to take credit sometimes, because we KGs are their inspiration and that’s a fact. But still, common sense. It’s the same way as we should not brag about our parent’s wealth for we weren’t the ones who shed blood and sweat and tears to get them.

Rule #5: Help each other.

We would never know when we would need the help of a sis. Out of love, we should always be ready to give a hand. When we are able, let us help each other pass messages of love to them knights-in-shining-combat-boots inside the Academy. We can also offer to bring boodles or things when our sis could not, when we are able to. When we are fortunate to talk on the phone or pay a visit, it would not hurt to put a smile on both a sis KG’s and her cadet’s faces. After all, seeing other people happy and helping them to be happy generate wonderful feelings inside us, right?

Some of us KGs are luckier to be nearer to their cadets. With some twist of fate, some sisses reside in Baguio City, and some could not help but stay in other parts of the country, even as far as Mindanao. Mahirap kayang bumyahe sa malamig na lungsod ng Baguio, lalo kung taga-malayo ka. Never hesitate to help a fellow KG who has the potential to get lost or get financially drained when in Baguio City. If you could accommodate her to your home, do so. If not, help her find the most optimum places she could sleep at, dine at, or chill at. Treat her like you would a relative or a real sister. Do tell her that the fare from town to PMA via jeepney, which is 18 pesos for regular and 14.50 pesos for student rate, is much much cheaper compared to an average of 120 pesos per one way taxi ride. Do advise her of the where to’s and how to’s here in Baguio. Do it out love.

So next time we encounter each other, let us all take in mind what’s written here. Some here are realized out of real experiences, some were given as advice, some came from plain common sense, and some are just there because we love each other. Remember, we KGs. We’re here out of love. We are our cadets’ little angels of love. So we should be each other’s angels, too.

Love you, sisses! :)

30/6

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For now, both of us have to sacrifice to be able to follow our dreams. Hurried moments, scribbled letters, stolen glimpses, a smile or two, that’s all there is. It will still get difficult but as long as we believe, as long as we trust, as long as we love, it is enough, for now.
(Two Worlds)

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30/6

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When you’re a kaydetgirl, there would be times you just might be diagnosed as slightly schizophrenic with the likes of mother Theresa, Cleopatra and Wonder Woman rolled into one.
(Don’t Fall In Love with a Peemayer)

(Source: angelfire.com)

30/6

KG Notes

by Mariel D. Dueñas

-photo c/o this site

Of pendants, mini-rings, & class/company jackets

     Wearing the insignia of their class and the instution makes one feel proud because these penchants emanate the ideals, beliefs, tradition and survival - all the blood, sweat and tears of your cadet.

     They also make you feel closer to your cadet, since he is wearing almost the same thing. But when you’re in PMA, take the saying, “if you’ve got it - flaunt it” in a different light. You’re already there so no need to shout to all the visitors & cadets “I’M A KAYDET GIRLLL!!!” diba? Nobody’s saying that you shouldn’t wear them when you decide to grace Lorenzo Hall or Boodle Bar, but a lot of kaydet girls (older ones!) are saying that it’s better if you keep it at a minimum visual level. But in the end, it’s really up to you. 

"Bok, siya ba si (any girl’s name), yung tumatawag sa yo palagi?"

     If you see a cadet and his kaydet girl arguing somewhere in Plaza 63 after being greeted by his mistahs, it’s probably because this line was uttered. Never knowing how this famous line came about, remember to always take it in jest. Anyway, there are more bola lines from a course that most of them aced, Bolahizing 101 (the term coming from one of the officials whom i got to chat on-line before). So just learn to smile amidst everything. Even if it were true (which is unavoidable), you’re the one who’s he with right? 

The 5 Minute Phone Call

     The fact - with a ddd activated phone, it would take 30 seconds to dial a PMA trunk line number and get connected.

     The sad truth - there are probably more or less a million other girlfriends, friends, and family members doing the same thing at the same time countrywide. So why don’t you…

Get up at 5:15 am and start calling. The million others who usually call are cut down to probably one-fourth.

Be very friendly to the operator. A little friendliness would get you far, like say being allowed to wait till the line to (supply your own) company is open.

Know or ask to be prompted when they would have their inside barracks mess.

Try staying in Nakar when you have the resources and time. The best place to access an “inside call” line. Just please don’t abuse the privilege!

     Keep in mind their schedule - be it academics, drills and parades so that you will know when the best time to call would be. Be sensitive to these things. It will ensure that you and your cadet would have a great conversation even under 5 minutes flat.

(Source: angelfire.com)

  1. Always looks good in uniform
  2. Pretrained to obey orders
  3. Can make a meal out of anything
  4. Knows how to handle his equipment
  5. Carries a big gun
  6. Great at night maneuvers
  7. Can fix anything
  8. Knows how to do laundry
  9. Can sleep anywhere
  10. Because he is my hero

(Source: quotesabouteverything.com)


I am a military girlfriend. I hold no formal recognition with the powers that be. I am at the bottom of the chain. I hold no Military ID card, I am not a “dependent” or a parent. The man I love may face unspeakable dangers, and I am at the mercy of those who possess this recognition for news. I understand this and accept this.

I am a military girlfriend. I have promised to be here for him upon his return, no matter how long he is away. People may say I am insane for making such a commitment with no guarantees, but I hold onto our promises and have faith that he will come home safe to me. I know full well that my love for him fuels him in the worst of times.

I am a military girlfriend, there is no ring on my finger that symbolizes our commitment. I hope every day that he will be able to call because a simple 30-second phone call can bring the greatest spectrum of emotions… smiling with tears in my eyes from so much joy and pain. My relationship is based on a brief communication where “I love you and I’m okay” speaks more than volumes and gives me the strength to keep going.

I am a military girlfriend. I take no moment spent together for granted. I hold onto every touch, caress, kiss, every word. I have memorized the feel of his skin, his smell, the sound of his voice, and I play it over and over in my mind so that I will not forget. I cry myself to sleep some nights because missing him hurts so badly, but wake up the next morning, brush myself off, and start a new day.

I am a military girlfriend. The events of the next several months hold my life, my love, and my future in the balance. When you watch the news reports, you may turn away and go about your business relatively unaffected. When I watch news stories of the war, I do not see nameless soldiers a half a world away. I see individuals who will be forever changed by war. News of every casualty causes me physical pain and deep sadness, and tears beyond my control.

I am a military girlfriend, not a spouse or family member. When you say your prayers for the wives, mothers, and fathers, please don’t forget about me.

(Source: angelfire.com)

12/6

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nillivictoria:

cadet hop at the grand convention center cebu city :)

nillivictoria:

cadet hop at the grand convention center cebu city :)

12/6

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HOP in JULY 2012, anyone? ;p


heoncecalledmeprincess:
In his world, things are so 1940’s. Even if it’s 2012 already.

HOP in JULY 2012, anyone? ;p


heoncecalledmeprincess:

In his world, things are so 1940’s. Even if it’s 2012 already.


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12/6

Video

The perfect song for cadet leaves, privileges, and breaks. We sleep alone at night hoping one day our cadet would sweep through the door and say, “Let’s runaway.”

RUNAWAY - BRUNO MARS

Ooohhhhhh

So easy to forget our love, the little things we do.
Like callin’ for no reason, just to say the words, “Baby, I love you.”
I know lately I’ve been busy, but a second doesn’t go by without you crossin’ my mind. 
It’s been so long since we had time, let’s take a day and make everything alright. 
Just take my hand, fall in love with me again.

Let’s runaway to the place where love first found us. 
Let’s runaway for the day, don’t need anyone around us.
When everything in love gets so complicated, it only takes a day to change it. 
What I have to say can’t wait, all I need is a day,
so let’s runaway.
let’s runaway, just for the day. 
runaway
runaway

Girl, you’ve been so patient, spendin’ nights alone and not complainin’
But i’ll make it up to you and i promise today i won’t keep you waitin’. 
Please give me this one chance to remind you of everything we have.
I won’t give up, I’m too much in love, and I want you to know that. 
Just take my hand, fall in love with me again. 

Let’s runaway to the place where love first found us. 
Let’s runaway for the day, don’t need anyone around us. 
When everything in love gets so complicated, it only takes a day to change it.
What i have to say can’t wait, all i need is a day.

so let’s runaway for the day,
and i’ll give everything in this moment. 
and i promise to make everyday just like the day[or today?]

Let’s runaway to the place where love first found us . 
Let’s runaway for the day, don’t need anyone around us. 
When everything in love gets so complicated, it only takes a day to change it.
What i have to say can’t wait, all i need is a day, 
so let’s runaway.