We’re all sisters, and we love each other so so much because we know each other and shared considerable amounts of time together. But it’s not just that. We’re sisters not just by acquaintance, we are sisters because we share the same emotions, same tears, same frantic madnesses. We feel like sisters because we DO treat each other like sisters.
It’s almost automatic for us KGs to click. We feel each other, so we know how to talk to each other. However, there are times when one or more of us may forget some little rules when dealing with each other. It is out of love that we have all met, and it should also be out of love that we mingle with each other. So here are some guidelines that are very useful, if we would ever want a harmonious world for KGs. These guidelines may not only improve our sisterhood, but may also improve your understanding of your cadet’s situations and improve your relationship with him.
This is written to guide new KGs, most of the part, for the KGs of plebes, but it is still very much useful still for them old, full-pledged KGs we know and love by heart.
Rule #1: At your first encounters, do treat the KG of an upperclass as if you were her underclass as well.
Treat the KG of an upperclass with utmost respect, unless offered to not do so. HUWAG NA HUWAG MO SIYANG UUTUSAN. Remember, she had already gone through all the hardships of being an underclass KG and all. She have already gone through the pains of every year her cadet has spent inside the academy. Who knows, she might have even accomplished a long list of compliances from both the uperclasses and their KGs. She should well be past that—and you should never, ever, make her feel the same way as she did before—regardless if she have done all those with utmost pleasure or not. However, you may make her do a thing or two IF AND ONLY IF SHE OFFERS TO DO SO. Note that when it is said “UTUSAN,” it can be a form of a request, o pa-joke na utos, or even the most innocent favors. Surely, if you’re an upperclass KG, automatic din na mai-imbyerna ka pag inutusan ka. So spare yourself the hate. Please.
Rule #2: Do not be too clingy or nosy when talking to your cadet’s upperclassmen.
Yes we know that it is from the upperclassmen that we get the most vital of information, even information our cadets do not even know yet, at times. Yeah, we KGs can be really curious at times, but being to clingy or nosy cannot help you. HUWAG MASYADONG MATANONG, HUWAG MASYADONG PA-CURIOUS. Some upperclassmen might get really irritated, pwede ring ikaw na ang mairita later on dahil kung snappy kang ebababs, baka pormahan ka naman. You woudn’t want that, would you? Isa pa, baka maging issue pa yan o ano. Alamona.
Rule #3: Huwag na huwag, as in never ever, MAINGGIT o MANG-INGGIT.
It’s not a fair world in there. Those who are higher have the most privileges, pero minsan, those who are higher are in more difficult situations. Basta, hindi sila pantay-pantay doon. Face it. Upperclass ay upperclass. At hindi lang iyon, iba ang mga patakaran sa bawat company. Hindi porke’t enjoy si mistah, ganoon na rin si cadet mo. Golden rule ang huwag MAINGGIT, dahil hindi naman kasalanan ng cadet mo na iba ang sitwasyon niya sa iba. Golden rule din ang huwang MANG-INGGIT, dahil alam mo naman sa sarili mo kung gaano kasakit ang malamang ang saya saya ng iba at ikaw, naghihintay sa wala. In short, BE SENSITIVE NAMAN. Sisters nga diba? Mahal natin ang isa’t isa. We must find ways to make each other happy, and find ways to keep us from being too sad. Wag nang gatungan pa ang pagka-miss ng isang sis.
Rule #4: Be your most humble self.
Humility is something we could all use in life, not just in our PMA or KG world. Kung ang ganda at ang sexy mo like hell and you know it, wag mo nang ipangalandakan. When going to the academy for a visit or what not, wear your simplest but not lousy clothes. Simplest—because you wouldn’t want to be too loud to get noticed too much. Simplest—because you wouldn’t want to arouse unsolicited criticisms and unintended insecurities from other KGs. Simplest—because it is what is proper, and your cadet would very much appreciate it if you would look decent and pretty at the same time. Sometimes we tend to want to dress up a little, and it’s nice—but don’t wear something that would turn every head (cadets’ or not) to you. It is very important to take note na kung echusera ang ibang mga KG, mas lalong echusero ang mga kadete. Marami sa atin ang nakarinig na ng usapan ng mga kadete na may temang, “Bok, nakita mo ba yung girlfriend ni Cdt. Dugumon? Snappy is not?” o kaya, “Like hell naman yung kasama ni Dugumon. Sluggable ah.” or even, “Hanep bok. Nakita mo ba yung babaeng ganito, ganyan blah-blah-blah.” Promise. Echusero sila. Kung wala tayong magawa sa buhay minsan at nagagawa nating manlait, mas lalo naman sila. Mas chismoso pa iyong mga iyon kaysa sa atin. Pero what, mahal na mahal naman natin sila. LOL.
Kung pupunta ka sa PMA, kung KG ka, halata naman na yun. Usually mag-isa ka sa taxi, or naglalakad mag-isa, or may kasamang mga kapwa KG, o kasama mong naglalakad si cadet mo. Basta, andun na yun eh. Feel na ng mga tao na KG ka. You don’t need paraphernalia to shout to the world that you are indeed one. You don’t need to wear the PMA shirts he gave you. You don’t need to wear shirts or jackets which scream out clearly P-M-A or the name of the company your boyfriend is or was in.
Yes, your cadet may be on the dean’s list or comm’s list or even sup’s list (Wow, sis! Congrats naman kay boyfriend mo. Infairness pag sup’s list, ang snappy niya like hell ah! :> ). Yes, your cadet may be the Baron, in the colors, or whatever position he may hold. Be humble. We all feel pride when our cadets have accomplishments, but remember—they still aren’t your accomplishments. Stay as humble as you can. Walk with pride but not too much. Congratulate him, even publicly on social networking sites, but not in such a way that you would already generate the feeling of “Oo na ikaw na ang may snappy na cadet. Ikaw na lang talaga. Anong tingin mo sa cadet ko, no-go?” or something like that. Lol. Face it. We’re women, we’re sensitive. After all, the accomplishments are his. They’re accomplished by the person you love. It is nice to take credit sometimes, because we KGs are their inspiration and that’s a fact. But still, common sense. It’s the same way as we should not brag about our parent’s wealth for we weren’t the ones who shed blood and sweat and tears to get them.
Rule #5: Help each other.
We would never know when we would need the help of a sis. Out of love, we should always be ready to give a hand. When we are able, let us help each other pass messages of love to them knights-in-shining-combat-boots inside the Academy. We can also offer to bring boodles or things when our sis could not, when we are able to. When we are fortunate to talk on the phone or pay a visit, it would not hurt to put a smile on both a sis KG’s and her cadet’s faces. After all, seeing other people happy and helping them to be happy generate wonderful feelings inside us, right?
Some of us KGs are luckier to be nearer to their cadets. With some twist of fate, some sisses reside in Baguio City, and some could not help but stay in other parts of the country, even as far as Mindanao. Mahirap kayang bumyahe sa malamig na lungsod ng Baguio, lalo kung taga-malayo ka. Never hesitate to help a fellow KG who has the potential to get lost or get financially drained when in Baguio City. If you could accommodate her to your home, do so. If not, help her find the most optimum places she could sleep at, dine at, or chill at. Treat her like you would a relative or a real sister. Do tell her that the fare from town to PMA via jeepney, which is 18 pesos for regular and 14.50 pesos for student rate, is much much cheaper compared to an average of 120 pesos per one way taxi ride. Do advise her of the where to’s and how to’s here in Baguio. Do it out love.
So next time we encounter each other, let us all take in mind what’s written here. Some here are realized out of real experiences, some were given as advice, some came from plain common sense, and some are just there because we love each other. Remember, we KGs. We’re here out of love. We are our cadets’ little angels of love. So we should be each other’s angels, too.
Love you, sisses! :)